Five Common Reasons Couples Wait Too Long to Go to Couples Therapy and Why Couples Shouldn’t Delay Seeking Help
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Five Common Reasons Couples Wait Too Long to Go to Couples Therapy and Why Couples Shouldn’t Delay Seeking Help

This article clearly explains the most common reasons why couples delay seeking couples counseling and why couples shouldn't wait too long to see a couples therapist. Dr. Ching-Ching Ruan, a Gottman Method trained couples therapist in treating couples, helps couples see the importance of seeking couples counseling as a preventative way to grow marriage before they hit crisis in the marriage.

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The 5 “Small-Things-Often Habits” to Increase Intimacy with Your Partner/ Spouse in the New Year
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The 5 “Small-Things-Often Habits” to Increase Intimacy with Your Partner/ Spouse in the New Year

5 Helpful New Year's Resolutions for Couples provide all couples with practical and effective ways to build better relationships for a great marriage. Couples learn "small things often" to create connections. This article incorporates Gottman method couple therapy. For examples, Dr. John Gottman pointed out that happy couples do small things often and promote a culture of appreciation in their marriage. These five areas where couples can create positive relationship habits include: 1) Catering to your partner’s love language to start the day, 2) Parting ways, 3) The power of saying “Thank You” and “I appreciate you for…”, 4) Physical affection, and 5) Reunions and Keep a Few Minutes for You Two in the Evening. The busy holiday season is over; now it’s time to get back to your regular busy routine. Now is the perfect time to revisit your time boundaries and develop relationship habits to make more time for one another. It’s the small things done often that make the biggest difference in relationships. I hope these practical habit tips help you and your partner/ spouse take back more time for yourselves this year.

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Maximize Your Therapy Sessions- Part I: Taking Notes and Reviewing them
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Maximize Your Therapy Sessions- Part I: Taking Notes and Reviewing them

The benefits of note-taking and tracking in counseling serves a valuable tool for clients. It helps people keep track of progress, promotes self-awareness, and record incremental changes over time. Clients will be able to see how they've grown and changed throughout the therapeutic process. Note taking and tracking is a powerful way for self growth and self improvement.

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想要提升親密關係,排除這四大溝通致命傷。
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想要提升親密關係,排除這四大溝通致命傷。

According to Gottman's research, the presence of the four horsemen in a relationship can significantly increase the likelihood of divorce or breakup. These four horsemen are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Gottman's work emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing these negative communication patterns to build and maintain strong, lasting relationships.

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Eliminate these Four Horsemen Would Increase the Quality of Your Communication with Your Partner / Spouse 
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Eliminate these Four Horsemen Would Increase the Quality of Your Communication with Your Partner / Spouse 

According to Gottman's research, the presence of the four horsemen in a relationship can significantly increase the likelihood of divorce or breakup. These four horsemen are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Gottman's work emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing these negative communication patterns to build and maintain strong, lasting relationships.

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